Ever since moving to the capital, Zee and I have missed a number of special occasions with family, particularly Mother’s and Father’s Day. Last year we didn’t do anything about it really. I mean we picked up the phone and called our parents to wish them well on their special day, but we missed out on the family dinners and barbecues that usually accompany these occasions.
But just because we are not with our loved ones on these special occasions doesn’t mean we can’t celebrate nonetheless. I know it sounds crazy but think about the point of these special days.
For all those people who year after year find Mother’s and Father’s Day hard to deal with because they may have lost a parent, what are they supposed to do? It’s like society really presses that Father’s Day has to be celebrated with your dad, but in hindsight it’s just another day to celebrate someone special in your life.
So, rather than avoiding any kind of celebration on Father’s Day because our dads live in another city, we decided to join in!
Sunday started with a wonderful breakfast to celebrate this special day which later led to a phone call to both our dad’s.
Suddenly we didn’t feel so far away from the family gatherings, but rather found a way to be part of it in a different way.
If you really think about it, the same thing can be done for other occasions like Valentine’s Day. My single friends dread Valentine’s Day every year, and because Zee and I never really do anything special that day, my friends become moody.
“You have someone special and you don’t even want to celebrate!”
But isn’t Valentine’s Day about love?
Technically, anyone can go out and celebrate love. You don’t need to be in a relationship. I mean, I spend everyday with Zee and every day is special. This means that for something like Valentine’s Day, I would rather like to celebrate love with my sister, or my parents, or in-laws, or friends.
There aren’t a set of rules around these special occasions meaning we make make of them what we will. Use these occasions as a way to show love in any way possible. Father’s Day can celebrate men generally and Mother’s Day women.
Even if it’s based on Mother and Father figures in your life.
It’s time we stop abiding by rules that don’t even exist and start making these occasions our own.
So happy Father’s Day to everyone out there who is celebrating that strong supportive person in their life.